Is the ship in relationship that important?*

How important is the ship in relationship, really?
Ever wondered why parents, brothers, sisters, friends, boy/girlfriends are always verbally put into a ship – relationship. Why don’t we ever have a relationship with our enemies? A well-known saying by an anonymous writer which goes something like this - There are big ships and small ships, but the best ship of all is friendship, could give us the clue. But many of us might have overlooked the real meaning of this saying.

Why a relation-‘ship’ and not a relation-‘gap’?
Well simply put, all the people in a ship are together and are heading in the same direction, smooth sailing or rough weather; they have to face both, together. It might not be necessary that all the people in the ship will have the same likings or even the same choice of food. They might even have different perspectives and opinions, but what matters is their end goal is the same. They both ‘Believe’ in something, and that belief does not contradict.

What will happen if people in a ship are of different beliefs?
Conflict, that’s what will happen sooner or later. One will have one opinion while the other will want to have it his/her way. At every common point where a critical decision needs to be taken by both the parties will spell ‘Trouble’. Even if one person does try to compromise at such an occasion, how long will that person be ready to bow down! Sooner or later that person will erupt like hot burning lava that will bring the whole ship and everything around it burning down.

Then how can we explain people of different beliefs being friends?
Not everybody will agree to what I have to say, but they are solely my opinions anyway. We all have a tolerance level when we are in the ship called friendship, because eventually a distance is maintained and everybody respects each others rights and territory without venturing into that much unspoken zone. But that’s about it! Have you ever tried to talk to one of your friends, of a different belief, about your beliefs and let him/her do the same? Then you see where that ship starts heading and you will suddenly realize that this strong almost unsinkable ship starts giving both of you sinking feeling.

But when it comes to a love relationship – boy/girl-friend relationship, the rules are different, this relationship demands for the couple to confide in each other completely. They need to speak about everything under the Sun; they will need to believe in the same thing if they want to be together for the rest of their life. After all, once they become ONE – get married, they are one body, one soul. Then how can ONE body disagree with itself, how can one soul be at two places at the same time. Have you ever gone for a boat ride and tried to put one leg in one boat while the other is in a different boat and then go for a ride? I am sure you will agree with me that it a highly difficult task, rather impossible to be more correct. In Short, it is not possible for ONE body – the couple, to have different beliefs, if they want to have a successful, happy and long relationship. That would also explain the growing number of divorces if looked at from a global perspective, which has increased only after people of different beliefs started getting together, while continuing to believe in two different things.

Even if two people of different beliefs do get together, yet believing in their own principles and life seems to be smooth sailing it is only because they haven’t yet reached that turning of life when belief comes into play. But, if one submits to the others believe at that point, everything will sail smoothly again! But then do not forget, one’s ego, belief, respect stand trampled upon, that person is living for nothing. That person would rather believe in his/her partners believe with all his/her heart than submit and stand defeated in life.

So that is why we cannot have a relationship with our enemy …huh?
Yup, that explains why we cannot have a relationship with our enemies. Because we are on two different ships, one believes in one thing while the other believes in something else and if both were to stay on the same boat for an extended period of time either they will kill each other or drown the ship itself.

They can have a relationship only if one were to start believing what the other believes in but then that belief has to be genuine. Otherwise after a short period of time the false mask will wear off and both of them will be begin to thirst for each others blood.

* This article is not intended for people who do not believing in anything or those who believe in the Darwin’s theory of evolution. ;)